Off the Key of Reason.

To all whom i have loved.
I wish you well.
It was good while it lasted, now let the hate begin, its only right.
Remember the laughter, cause you will not come close to it again.
Remember the places, cause it will never feel the same again.
Remember those times, cause its never coming back.

My time with you has taught me well, even if its not for the right things.
As much as i can love, i can hate with all my heart.

I am human, i reason with myself on a per second basis.
If i do not think, what difference am i from an animal.
Yet when i do, i tend to keep thoughts to myself,
resulting in a vicious cycle that goes round in cycle.

I find solitude in writing, even if it does not make sense to just anybody.
It gives me an avenue to write my thoughts.
A space where my darkest emotions can be let out.
An environment where no one judges,
Off the key of reason he says,
Lets go back to the basics.

I have loved and hated.
This is love, they say.
I am not here to argue that, in fact, i should sadistically say i love every second of it.
This cycle has lead me to be who i am today.
I am proud of what i have become.

I am never letting go of the hatred, the bad, the ugly and the evilness.
But i believe in new beginnings, new perspectives, and starting life afresh.

To those who stand by me in the darkest of moments,
I give you the best that i can offer, nothing less.
In you, i learn what love can be, what it means, and what greatness we can get out of it.

Damned If I Do Ya (Damned If I Don't)

I am a sucker for emo songs.

I've fought it for a long time now
While drowning in a river of denial
I washed up, fixed up, picked up
All my broken things

'Cause you left me
Police tape, chalk line
Tequila shots in the dark
Scene of the crime
Suburban living with a feeling
That I'm giving up
Everything for you
(For you)

Oh, oh, oh
How was I supposed to know that you were
Oh, oh, over me?
I think that I should go
(Go!)
And something's telling me to leave, but I won't
'Cause I'm damned if I do ya
Damned if I don't

It took a lot to take you home
One stupid call and I end up alone
You're made up, dressed up
Messed up plans I set in stone

But you made me do
When I don't like dancing in the alley
With the streetrat night life
Can't keep living with a feeling
That I'm giving up
Everything for you
(For you)

Oh, oh, oh
How was I supposed to know that you were
Oh, oh, over me?
I think that I should go
(Go!)
And something's telling me to leave, but I won't
'Cause I'm damned if I do ya
Damned if I

Don't make a fool of myself
When you hang around
When you're gone
I'm a match that's burning out
Could have been, should have done
What I said I was going to do
(Said that I would do)
But I never promised you
(But I never promised you)
Promised you, promised you

Oh, oh, oh
How was I supposed to know that you were
Oh, oh, over me?
I think that I should go
(Go!)
It never took a fool
To see the things that I won't
'Cause I'm damned if I do ya
Damned if I do ya

Oh, oh, oh
('Cause you left me)
How was I supposed to know that you were
(Police tape, chalk line)
Oh, oh, over me?
(Tequila shots in the dark)
I think that I should go
(Scene of the crime)
And something's telling me to leave, but I won't
'Cause I'm damned if I do ya
Damned if I do
Damned if I do ya
Damned if I don't

????????

Man question their existence all the time.

Its like driving a car on a deserted straight road. You step on the accelerator to the maximum speed that the car can drive at.. you feel the thrill.. do that for about an hour.. and going at 160km/h feels like nothing. Then u decide to drive slow, say at the speed limit of 110km/h. You enjoy the ride, noticing the increased comfort and lesser Tyre noise. Then u get bored and wonder when will you ever get to your destination. While u were dreading the drive, u notice maybe a car accident and u get all excited for that brief moment.. You talk about it; what might have caused it and whether anyone might have died.. then the moment is over and u continue to dread the drive.

To start, i have completely no idea why i am blogging and what do i have to blog about. (thats basically sums up all my posts).

Just as in am heavy in thought about what to type here, the Arsenal game started.. and i have been summon to go watch it..

I guess all i had to say to myself was, "Sam, this road trip of 6 months is over. During this 6 months you lost yourself driving towards what you thought was a destination. Along the way and while driving, you lost your focus and drive. You started to get delusional and lost that confidence that you thought you had to drive urself there. You lost your character that made u what you were and maybe thats why u started to doubt yourself. The day of reckoning has come. Its time to belive again."

Hmmm, maybe i will read this again when the Arsenal game is over and perhaps understand what i am talking about.

How respecting your boyfriend can save your relationship

by Sylvher

Truth be told, many girls start off a relationship with respect for her man. However, along the way, as she discovers more imperfections in him, she loses respect for him.

When something disappointing about her boyfriend is discovered, a girl makes a grave mistake (usually on a sub-conscious level), thinking, "I'll wait until he changes THAT thing before I can respect him."

Such a decision is usually the start of an irreversible journey of discoveries of more flaws and problems with the man and a downward spiral towards more resentment, greater dissatisfaction and less fulfilment in the relationship. Thus, these very same girls wait for far too long and the respect that she has tagged to his change never surfaces.

If respect for your boyfriend is tagged to a condition, you are only setting yourself up for disappointment. In fact, girls who do that almost always end up breaking off the relationship.

Why wait for him to change? Why not just respect the man in spite of his flaws? Chances are, if you do that, you'll find yourself more fulfilled in the relationship and your boyfriend eventually learns to rise to the occasion.

Respecting him is easier than you think. Here's how:

1) Respect His Space
Stop putting your mark on him.

Some girls insist on putting something obviously girly or couple-ish (like soft toys or ornaments with love imprints) in their boyfriends' car. Some expect their boyfriends to use the heart-shaped mugs they bought in the workplace (or home, especially if the guy stays alone). Then, there are those who insist that their pictures be displayed as the wallpaper of their boyfriends' mobile phones.

If the guy is truly alright with such "markings", that's fine, If your boyfriend ever does any of these on his own initiative, congrats to you. You've definitely captured his heart completely. However, many guys are actually uncomfortable when their girlfriends propose such arrangements.

Firstly, the guy feels that his space is being invaded upon. Secondly, the girl appears insecure and needy with such requests.

Result? The guy loses some respect for his girlfriend. Though such actions will not result in break-ups (unless the requests are truly overboard and frequent), these
little actions are often tell-tale signs that you don't respect your boyfriend as much as you think you do.

2) Respect His Decisions
An average girl in Singapore is self-sufficient and her earning power can easily match her partner's. As such, reliance on her boyfriend as her future provider greatly diminishes as her income increases. The problem with this is that she starts being too confident in her own decision-making abilities and forgets to respect her boyfriend's.

Yes, the girl often proves to be right. And it's true, the female usually has the higher IQ & EQ in a relationship.

Nonetheless, she mustn't forget that eventually, the man becomes the head of the household, not the woman.

Challenging his decisions is like making a human walk around with two heads. Who truly leads? What if both heads say different things? How can anything get done properly?

Respect his decisions enough to not say, "I told you so…" - even in non-verbal cues- when his decisions end up in the wrong results.

Respect his decisions enough to not bring up his track record each time a similar decision has to be made. Treat his decisions as how you’d like yours to be treated, especially when it turns out to be wrong. Better to have a man who was wrong than a wimp who can't make decisions.

3) Respect His Time
Some girls need to have their boyfriends "report" to them by a certain time everyday. This is very suffocating to a man. Guys generally don't like to FEEL chained even though he is. Doesn't every girl want to believe that her boyfriend is hers and hers alone?

Men are generally more task-oriented and sometimes, taking time to even make a call breaks his work momentum. Normally, a guy will not tell the girl that he is feeling suffocated by her demands on his time.

Furthermore, if he loves her to a certain extent, he will not want to hurt her feelings unnecessarily.

When a girl insists on an arrangement that will encroach on a man's time, the man will very likely start feeling pressurised. If this goes on, the pleasure he feels on meeting or calling his girlfriend quickly fades. When that happens, the danger is that he may intentionally spend his time on anything and anyone else just to escape this pressure. How healthy can a relationship be if so?

4) Respect His Sharing
Many girls' knowledge are on par with or even more so than guys' these days. So what happens is that a girl becomes very quick to dispute the facts her boyfriend says and pass judgement on some experiences he shares.

When a girl does that too much, the man feels belittled and disrespected.

He starts being discouraged with talking to his girlfriend. Very soon, he shares less and less. In fact, if the girl bothered to take note, she will notice that when she is too quick to cut the man off, he usually ends up shutting up abruptly and the whole episode he was talking about suddenly stops short. That's the beginning of the end.

She should heed the warning signs before it's too late.

If you are that girl aforementioned, it's not too late. From now on, when your boyfriend tells you something that he understood wrongly, listen to the entire text first. Let him finish, respond to his conversation, then say, “By the way…” and correct his mistake (which you spotted earlier and just HAD to correct) gently. Chances are, he’ll accept your correction and even thank you for it if you do as such.

5) Respect His Family
The last thing you need is for your boyfriend to be caught between a rock and a hard place. That's because you are the rock, which can be moved and REMOVED, whereas his family is the hard place, which is immovable and unchangeable.

If you don't respect his family and even manage to pull him over to your side of the argument, you need to know that you must be prepared for a LIFETIME of having to do that.

Even if he already hates his family, you don't need to intensify his negative feelings and add to his pressure by complaining about what-is-to-come before the family gathering even takes place.

Grumbling and griping about an unexpected or upcoming family event helps nothing. On the other hand, handling such affairs with grace only serves to make him appreciate you more. He may not express his appreciation of you aloud but you can be assured that your respect for his family is not without rewards.

Many married men have revealed that the girl they choose to marry over another who could have been better-looking, richer or more fun to be with, is the girl who displayed such qualities. To a man, any girl who can show respect to his family, especially if he is very close to them, for his sake is worth spending a lifetime with.

6) Respect His Friends
No matter how you dislike your boyfriend's friends, it never hurts to have a possibility of them rallying around you should he confide in them after you two have had a fight. And fights will happen.

Most men turn to their friends after they have quarrelled with the girlfriend. If such friends have never known the girl, they are likely to fully believe his side of the story and join in his girlfriend-bashing rants.

However, if your boyfriend's pals have a good impression of their buddy's girlfriend, they may even speak up for you. This can only be to your advantage. Relationships have been known to make or break due to friends' input, so don't under-estimate the power of peer influence.

If you have never done any of the above "Respects", you must be wondering how you can do all six at once. Don’t fret. Any effort on your part to work on any of them will eventually be noticed by your partner. Moreover, from a start in respecting one aspect, it is much easier to transfer this respect to the other areas mentioned above.

Respect doesn't mean you have to be a doormat and allow him to step all over you. By
all means, tell him your opinion. Give him your suggestions but do so gently, calmly, respectfully, without an expected timeframe.

Give him the allowance to have his own response to your outpour of thoughts and emotions. Stop expecting change, improvement and a certain set of words or action from him. Don't disguise your demands as suggestions.

These are easily exposed when you react upon seeing that your "suggestions" were not taken.

Remember, respect should be given, not earned (by his credits). When you respect your man, you have nothing to lose. In fact, you'll have much to gain. After all, you've tried almost everything else to make your relationship work. Why not try respect from now on?


About the contributor:
Sylvher personally went from someone who was emotionally empty, dateless and hopeless about finding the right man in the past into a "highly date-able" and happily-attached woman presently.

As a Dating and Relationship Advisor to women in Singapore, she has coached many women into successfully enjoying their dating lives and entering into fulfilling relationships. She conducts trainings and personal coaching sessions (upon special requests) specially for women.

She maintains a website at - http://www.attractmeninsingapore.com

Fall Out Boy - Folie à Deux

Another quality album from FOB. Couple of songs i like, maybe in the later stages i might like more of it.

My Top 3 Song from the album:

1. America’s Suitehearts
2. Disloyal Order Of Water Buffaloes
3. What A Catch, Donnie

They are geniuses with the lyrics!!

Random Stuff

At this particular time, you are feeling that you are or were unjustly and undeservedly treated and/or betrayed in your hopes and dreams. You feel that everything is against you. But look on the bright side for you are, whether you believe it or not, a survivor.

You are lazy - you dream of a peaceful, calm, uncluttered and uncomplicated life. Your ideal would be to share a permanent base with some person or persons who would be able to demonstrate on-going love, peace and security.

You feel that you should be appreciated far more than you are but no-one seems to care! You feel that you are receiving less than your share and the main problem is that there is no-one to whom you can turn to for sympathy and understanding. The inner stress that you are experiencing makes you quick to take offence but you realise that at this particular moment in time there is little that you can do to relieve the situation.

All of the stress and strains resulting from disappointment have led to agitation and anxiety. You have been going out of your way to make a good impression, but you have reservations as to the likelihood of succeeding. You feel that you have a right to accomplish all that you set your mind on but you have become helpless and distressed when circumstances have gone against you. The idea of failure is most upsetting and this can even mean utter dejection. You see yourself as a scapegoat and you feel everyone in your sphere of influence has tried to take undue advantage of you. You are trying to convince yourself that your failure to achieve standing and recognition is not of your making but indeed of those around you.

You are moody and depressed at this time but it will pass. All of your hopes and dreams seem to have gone astray and you are fearful of planning further for the future. Disappointment at the non fulfilment of your hopes and the fear that to formulate fresh goals will only lead to further setbacks have resulted in considerable anxiety and you try to escape from this by withdrawing into yourself. But that is not the answer. You have the power to succeed, believe in yourself... all is possible to him who believes.

I won't hesitate no more, no more

I am kinda in love with the lyrics of this song.

Relient K There Was No Thief

For a time I thought there was a thief among us
I thought I'd track him down but prior to my pursuit
The smoke it cleared into my disbelief
There was no theif
'Cuz it was me that lost you

There was no theif
'Cuz it was me that lost you

I guess it's safe to say you're never coming back
And I understand why you wouldn't want to
I guess it's up to me to find a way to get to you

And there's just one last thing that I have to say
As we reflect on the mess of all of this I've made
It was cowardice that made me push you away
I was so afraid 'cuz you were so much better than me

I can't see you
Getting used to
Living in the midst of your perfection
And I'm so lost
How can you trust
Somewhere the sun is always shinin'

And there's just one last thing that I have to say
As we reflect on the mess of all of this I've made
It was cowardice that made me push you away
I was so afraid 'cuz you were so much better than me

I guess it's safe to say you're never coming back...